When Barack decided to propose to Michelle, he went about it in a rather unconventional way.
Both lawyers, they could argue a point until the cows came home.
Barack started a conversation about the merits of marriage.
“He opened up the box and he said, ‘Now that ought to shut you up.’
And it did,” Michelle told Colbert.
In fact, Michelle once admitted in an interview that there was a time she couldn’t stand Barack.
“And guess when it happened?
When those kids were little.”
““We both like to win.
I know that we’ve had to learn how to argue differently.
“Barack wants to talk rationally, and I’m like ‘rational’?”
“Don’t come to me with sense I’m angry!
“I didn’t want to just be an appendage to his dreams.
So that forced me to work and think, and make decisions like leaving law,” she added.
“It felt like, ‘I can’t do all of this.
So I have to tone down my aspirations.
I have to dial it back,” she explained.
“One tiny thing would go wrong, and my mother-guilt would kick in.
I’d start second-guessing every choice Barack and I had ever made,” she wrote.
Michelle can speak to this because her marriage has gone through its fair share of rough patches.
There was a time Michelle and Barack were undergoing marriage counseling in an attempt to work on their relationship.
Michelle admitted that she initially thought counseling would “fix” her husband.
She believed he was the problem but quickly learned that she had some work to do too.
“My resentment for him was that Barack was prioritizing himself, in a way.
We had babies; he was at the gym.
I was like, ‘How do you find time to work out?’
she explained in her Netflix documentary “Becoming.
“My happiness is not dependent on him making me happy,” she added.
“They ask how we have managed to stay both married and unmiserable for thirty years now.
And really, I’m not joking,” she wrote.
seems as if Michelle and Barack are the very definition of opposites attract.
They also have different ways of expressing their love.
