So, you finally plucked up the courage to slide into your crush’s DMs.

You pick up your phone and start texting away, only to delete your message and rewrite it.

Even asking your friends to write your messages for you is starting to look like a plausible option.

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Let us help by offering you the tools to be a confident communicator all on your own.

Texting your crush can be a daunting undertaking.

You want to put your best foot forward while still being authentic.

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Get ready to text away with confidence and land that first date in style.

it’s possible for you to thank us later.

Trombetti also warns against inundating your crush with several texts.

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“Just text once, and if they respond right away, it’s okay to text back.

If they don’t, wait to see if they answer at all and when,” Trombetti advises.

Once you’ve sent that text, take a deep breath and … wait.

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Your best bet is to be patient and see what happens.

“It’s important to give the conversation room to breathe.

It can prime you for a great first date,” Trombetti notes.

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So text back in a timely manner but resist the urge to be a quick responder.

“There should be nothing sad, political, or religious.

Do you get to tell your crush about it?

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Of course, you’re able to’t be expected to be glued to your phone all day.

Trombetti suggests you be upfront with your possible future bae about why your response times might be lengthy.

Relationship therapist Rachel Sussman adds that constantly texting with your crush isn’t a good thing anyway.

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Adating mistake we all tend to makein these situations is asking them point blank what the heck is up.

But our experts say this shouldn’t be your go-to move.

“Don’t act offended,” matchmaker Susan Trombetti urges.

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you could hide out at my place if you’d like” or “Thought I would say hi.

Let me know if you want to meet for a drink!”

This will give you an idea of how invested they really are.

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“If you’ve made it apparent that you’re interested sit back and see who they really are.

You’ve seen this in the movies, and it never ends well.

or a simple, “Hey, what’s up?”

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“It can come across as low effort.

Instead, make your texts specific or tied to something they can engage with,” Haley suggests.

What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve seen today?”

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Another way to build a deeper and more personal connection with your crush is by sending them voice messages.

It shows you’re listening and genuinely interested, which builds a stronger connection," Haley explains.

“It’s okay to be flirty but not okay to be sexual,” Sussman notes.

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Online dating expert Carmelia Ray agrees.

Give text messages to your crush a good once-over before hitting send.

“Pay attention to cadence, language, even grammar.

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This gets annoying fast and might make you seem, er, a little childish.

“Texting can lead to a lot of misunderstanding,” dating and relationship coach Nicole Haley advises.

Board-certified psychotherapist and mediator, Kimberly Key, Ph.D., agrees.