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They made an unexpected pair.
Along the way, they became parents, welcomingfuture rock star Wolfgang Van Halenin 1991.
The musician who’d seen Bertinelli on TV and already had a crush on her was smitten.
“I thought, ‘There she is!
I want it!’
No, actually I was very nervous.”
Marrying Bertinelli, he said in that interview was the high point in his life.
“Best thing I’ve ever done,” he declared.
Van Halen promised to behave but reneged.
Meanwhile, the newlyweds' wedding night was far less romantic than the public would have assumed.
“Ed likes me skinny,” she once told Monk’s fiancee, as recounted inPage Six.
“Cocaine was everywhere and easy to get.”
However, there are a few key factors that worked against them from the get-go.
One was the youth Van Halen was 26, while Bertinelli was just 21.
Then, of course, there was their respective abuse of drugs and alcohol.
He was done," she recalled in “Losing It.”
That wasn’t the only time that she was forced to confront Van Halen’s unfaithfulness.
“Welcome to my life.”
And I don’t like that, so I really wanted to get that out of me."
Bertinelli shared more details in her memoir, “Losing It.”
“I just wanted somebody to touch me and love me.
And I wasn’t getting it at home.
Now, that’s not an excuse.”
“But it was a big, huge wrong choice,” she added.
“I don’t know about the timing.”
“I don’t know why he didn’t like me.
I mean, I was always nice to him.
I honestly don’t know.”
““It sucks,” she said, referencing her divorce.
When it finally ended, Bertinelli was understandably devastated.
I became a hermit.”
“The sight of myself was too much for me to tolerate.”
After surgery to remove a substantial portion of his tongue, he believed that he’d beaten the disease.
Tragically, the cancer returned, initially in his head and neck before spreading to his lungs.
“I loved his soul.”
I just love you," he told her, as she recalled in the book.
“I contributed to our troubles too and I am also sorry.”
It took her decades to realize that wasn’t true.
Nothing that makes you feel loved and wanted and cared for.
Nothing that would scream soulmate, that’s for sure."
“Maybe next time.
“What we had together was this beautiful son that we both unconditionally loved,” she said.
Not a soulmate.”
Of course, there were those who felt her feelings were worthy of criticism.
“It’s weird.
Grief shame is something I never thought would happen to me,” she said, as reported byToday.com.
“I was 20 when I met him.
I still loved him.
We spent a lot of time together.
He’s the father of my son.
He’s the father of the greatest gift in my life.”
Bertinelli had a message for those grief-shaming online haters.
“I miss him.
“He was a huge part of my life,” Bertinelli said of Van Halen.
I don’t know how to explain it.”
