It doesn’t matter who you are.
Happiness is something we’re all after.
Sometimes it’s easy and natural, and other times it’s a total struggle.
Not sure if your happiness level is normal?
Take a look at a recent disappointment or setback and notice what feelings came up for you.
“Are you paralyzed or taken off track by these times or situation in your life?
This may indicate that you may not be truly happy with the holistic view of your life.”
The more comfortable you are with yourself and your own opinions, the happier you will be.
Happy people don’t tend to get bogged down with other people’s opinions of them.
“This frees them up to be open, honest, and vulnerable with others in their life.”
Happy people are also brave enough to say what they’re truly feeling.
“Express your feelings in the moment.
“Say what you feel clearly and respectfully.
It will free you.”
Happy people use that time to pursue the activities they love.
“They feel empowered to go after their dreams, no matter what obstacles are in their way.”
That’s impossible and competely unnatural.
However, happy people do know how to bounce back and find the joy in every situation.
“Happy people are well aware that happiness doesn’t come out of nowhere!
Sounds pretty good to me!
They go through rough waters like everyone else.
However, happy people know when to reach out and ask for help.
“Even happy people have difficulties and struggles in life,” said Moore.
“What separates happy people from the rest of the pack?
They talk about what’s bothering them and seek social support wherever they can.”
You prioritize your own well being
you could’t be happy if you burn yourself out.
It is crucial to prioritize self-care.
“Happy folks take great care of themselves,” shared Moore.
You accept yourself as is
This is a big one.
“True happiness is when you accept yourself exactly as you are, where you are.
“Self-acceptance is ultimately the gateway to a happy life,” Menser-Lust told me.
“I typically ask my clients, how are you with sitting alone with yourself?
Alone with your thoughts and feelings?
You enjoy your work
Finding passion and meaning in your work is crucial for happy people.
Look at how you approach these interactions with others,” Menser-Lust told me.
“Do you approach these opportunities with enthusiasm or indifference?
Chances are you’ll both walk away feeling better (and more caffeinated!).
Intimate relationships are usually the ones that are the most challenging.
However, we need this level of connection in our lives to thrive,” explained Menser-Lust.
“Successful relationships are those that have mutual acceptance and respect outweighing times of criticism and contempt.”
A healthy work-life balance will keep you rejuvenated and happy.
“However, there are those that feel indifferent or burdened by their positions.
It is possible to hate your job and still be happy in life.
The issue arises when your identity is directly connected to your job.”
see to it that you are nurturing passions and relationships outside the office as well.
“You are more than just your job.
“The common denominator is you.”
You have strong values
Happy people are comfortable with themselves and their own values.
“Values are essentially characteristics that we hold as a priority and help to navigate our life decisions.
“For example, if I value family, I’ve attributed a portion of my time to family.
Understanding your values means you know what makes you happy and what doesn’t.”
Take a look at your day-to-day schedule.
Does it reflect your real values?
Our values are essentially our internal compass to happiness.”
“Give yourself special time.
Take 10 to 15 minutes each day to be with yourself and chill,” advised Dr. Walfish.
Give yourself short, undivided, positive attention each day to nourish and fortify yourself.”
First of all, don’t panic.
Meiman recommended asking yourself some questions.
Are you prioritizing your own health with enough sleep and good food?
Are you making time for the things that really matter to you?
Do you have hobbies or interests that you enjoy?
What are your first thoughts when you wake up each morning?
“to get to be truly happy, feelings of sadness and other uncomfortable emotions cannot be excluded.
Life is not a cakewalk.
Happiness cannot look like rainbows and flowers and sunshine at all times.
That is not realistic, and ultimately those expectations will leave you truly unhappy,” explained Meiman.
“Those who are truly happy are able to sit with discomfort.
They feel their feelings as they come up, without judgment or shame.
